Allee Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 Whatever they decide to do for their wedding, just be happy for them and don't under any circumstances try to change their ideas. Vanessa and I have some ideas for our day that we have thought through and think are very "us" and the only people who don't think it will be great are my parents! It's causing all sorts of grief and I don't like grief. Hallelujah. I have a friend who's planning her wedding at the moment. She's Chinese and quite traditional, her parents live in Hong Kong. Her other half is first gen Canadian. They're getting grief from all sides re the traditional v western wedding and where it should be, it's pretty stressful for her. My advice ... you can't please everyone, so you might as well please yourself... I had another friend whose mother basically hijacked her wedding, and completely tuned out anything she wanted. In the end, they eloped... I can't say I don't think Mama had it coming. Seems like there's nothing that brings out the worst in families like weddings and funerals... :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartron Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 Hallelujah. I have a friend who's planning her wedding at the moment. She's Chinese and quite traditional, her parents live in Hong Kong. Her other half is first gen Canadian. They're getting grief from all sides re the traditional v western wedding and where it should be, it's pretty stressful for her. My advice ... you can't please everyone, so you might as well please yourself... One of my cousins was in a similar situation a short while ago (Christian vs Hindu) and solved it by having two weddings. :) 'later... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allee Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 One of my cousins was in a similar situation a short while ago (Christian vs Hindu) and solved it by having two weddings. :) Yikes. Organising one is enough of a hassle! I think they've settled on a wedding in Calgary and a reception in Hong Kong. They're still debating the points of the traditional ceremony, I actually think that Chinese weddings sound like a whole heap of fun ... the bride is upstairs and her friends guard the staircase on the wedding morning. The groom has to do whatever they say to prove he's worthy before he can go and get her ... apparently a lot of fun to watch! And some of the games at the wedding sound like a scream too ... like passing the egg up the guy's pants leg and down the other one. If you're nice, the egg is hard boiled ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncermak Posted August 13, 2006 Report Share Posted August 13, 2006 Glad to see the this thread is continuing to progress without my direct oversight. First...the update. I have been working on a new jobsite down in Fairhaven Mass, and we don't have our internet set up yet, but furthermore, I've been wicked busy getting the job going. Lindsay and I just put in an offer on a condo in Grafton, close to where she will be earning her Vet. Degree, and it was accepted. pso needless to say, things are still going well. now to put in my $0.02 on some recent questions. How long did it take me to know...aouyt 6 months of being friends before I came to my senses, then It took another 2 months to convince her. within a couple of months after that, we knew... if getting married and buying a house are similar, it will try my patiendce, but ultimately work out. gotta go now... hope alls well with all of you -Noah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dantheman0177 Posted August 14, 2006 Report Share Posted August 14, 2006 OK, I think my mum ("mom" to all you Americans) is sorted, subject to Vanessa and I finalising a venue for lunch. What a drama. I had to tell her point blank that there is nothing I would less rather do than have a full sit down reception for 150 people and if it comes down to culling numbers back to about the 60-70 that we want, the first people to go will be her's and dad's brothers and sisters. We want the people that we "want to invite", not the people that we "have to invite". But we thrashed through it and I think she understands where we are coming from now. Besides, we are going to have a big celebration at night anyway and invite everybody so nobody gets completely offended (anyone want to drop in????). Oh and speaking of buying a house being less stressful than planning a wedding, the whole wedding thing must have made me so stressed that I am seriously looking at buying another house! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted August 15, 2006 Report Share Posted August 15, 2006 Guys typically set their standards about three or four points higher than they should. I did it too, and it was the reason I stayed single for a long time, and didn't have a lot of luck in clubs. Most of my friends had the same problem, and it never occured to us that the answer was simply lowering our standards. I don't know what this has to do with anything, but guys eventually come to terms with the fact that a 5 is not likely to land a 10. [Edit: unless he has big money, or is the instructor in her scuba/skydiving/snowboarding/whatever class]I don't think ANYONE should lower their standards or "settle" for anything less than what they want. That leads to eventual resentment of the person, or straying to find something "better", etc. Maybe "changing your standards" is a better term, but feeling like you are lowering them is NOT the way to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allee Posted August 15, 2006 Report Share Posted August 15, 2006 I have a girlfriend who is guy mad, but she has a list - and I kid you not - with about 12 things the guy has to "meet". Height, weight, hair colour, income, interests, you name it. If he doesn't meet the list she won't even date him. She's 37 and still single. Does she need to "lower her standards"? Or just "change the filter"? I think there are always non negotiables. I could never date a smoker. But other than that you need to be a bit flexible... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gecko Posted August 15, 2006 Report Share Posted August 15, 2006 I like the word filter...not that it matters to me now...the only two women that I have ever loved are married one to a guy who (IMO) treats her like **** and the other to me The funny/strange thing is that though they are completely different looking they are very very similar people in both their persononality and background. So I guess my filter is calibrated pretty well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skatha Posted August 16, 2006 Report Share Posted August 16, 2006 I have a girlfriend who is guy mad, but she has a list - and I kid you not - with about 12 things the guy has to "meet". Height, weight, hair colour, income, interests, you name it. If he doesn't meet the list she won't even date him. She's 37 and still single. Does she need to "lower her standards"? Or just "change the filter"? I think there are always non negotiables. I could never date a smoker. But other than that you need to be a bit flexible... My ideal guy in my mind probably doesn't exist! You have to remember that guys over 6' tall comprise only about 20% on the population, if you start adding income restrictions, education, hair color.... I think she needs to re-assess her filter... With 2 kids, my post divorce dating filter got narrowed to "cute guy, preferably with a beard, college grad, not an axe murderer or child molester" I realized the best place to look was divorced dads, even though I swore to try to avoid the whole divorce scene as a 20-something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipuppy Posted August 17, 2006 Report Share Posted August 17, 2006 The perfect housewarming present Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skatha Posted August 17, 2006 Report Share Posted August 17, 2006 Hey, my hubby was somebody's ex! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dantheman0177 Posted August 17, 2006 Report Share Posted August 17, 2006 :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: @ skipuppy. That is hillarious. My PA and I are cacking ourselves at that one. Where do we buy them???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipuppy Posted August 17, 2006 Report Share Posted August 17, 2006 www.overstock.com search for "ex knife" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted August 17, 2006 Report Share Posted August 17, 2006 I LOVE THAT!!!! Every time I go to New Orleans, I go to the Voodoo shop and contemplate a voodoo doll for the ex......But this is more direct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipuppy Posted August 18, 2006 Report Share Posted August 18, 2006 A story about a fly, a fish, a bear, a hunter, a mouse and a cat. There is a moral to this story, but not exactly the one most of us are expecting! In the dead of summer a fly was resting on a leaf beside a lake. The hot, dry fly who said, to no one in particular, "Gosh... if I go down three inches, I will feel the mist from the water and I will be refreshed." There was a fish in the water thinking, "Gosh... if that fly goes down three inches, I can eat him." There was a bear on the shore thinking, "Gosh... if that fly goes down three inches that fish will jump for the fly... and I will grab him!" It also happened that a hunter was farther up the bank of the lake preparing to eat a cheese sandwich... "Gosh," he thought, "if that fly goes down three inches... and that fish leaps for it... that bear will expose himself and grab for the fish. "I'll shoot the bear and have a proper lunch." Now, you probably think this is enough activity on one bank of a lake, but I can tell you there's more... A wee mouse by the hunter's foot was thinking, "Gosh if that fly goes down three inches... and that fish jumps for that fly... and that bear grabs for that fish... the dumb hunter will shoot the bear and drop his cheese sandwich." A cat lurking in the bushes took in this scene and thought (as was fashionable to do on the banks of this particular lake around lunch time), "Gosh... if that fly goes down three inches... and that fish jumps for that fly... and that bear grabs for that fish and that hunter shoots that bear... and that mouse makes off with the cheese sandwich... then I can have mouse for lunch." The poor fly is finally so hot and so dry that he heads down for the cooling mist of the water. The fish swallows the fly... The bear grabs the fish... The hunter shoots the bear... The mouse grabs the cheese sandwich... The cat jumps for the mouse... The mouse ducks... The cat falls into the water and drowns. The moral of the story is: Whenever a fly goes down three inches, somewhere there's a pussy in serious danger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted August 21, 2006 Report Share Posted August 21, 2006 Ok, how many of you have gone back to an EX and had it work out? To me, there's a reason they are EX's.....but maybe I am wrong, missing something here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Dold Posted August 21, 2006 Report Share Posted August 21, 2006 A friend of mine has, but I'd describe them more as "content" than happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipuppy Posted August 21, 2006 Report Share Posted August 21, 2006 I tried breaking up with one of my ex's several times and failed (got convinced to stay back in). The reason why he is my ex: he hurt me enough so that I could not get over feeling bitter or hurt by him as soon as it got rough when we were together. Since I am young, after getting out of that one (and therapy), I've realized that this guy was quite the jerk. there is a good reason for an ex being an ex On a light note... I MET THIS TOTALLY INCREDIBLY SUPER COOL AWESOME GUY that I am totally psyched about and I think he is a better skier than I am. Lucky for me, being an alpine boarder in addition to a skier qualifies you for undeniable style and coolness points :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sinecure Posted August 25, 2006 Report Share Posted August 25, 2006 This thread is at risk of falling off the front page. Tuesday I had a date with a woman who has lots of ski pictures in her match.com profile. Our date: picked her up around 2:00 and helped her get new brake pads into her bike (first time I'd changed disc brake pads on a bicycle before). Mounted bikes to the back of my car and her two surfboards to the top. Drove up the hill to Skeggs off Skyline and rode for about an hour. Bikes back on car and drove to the Bakery in Pescadero. I was almost dissapointed when we walked in and the rack where they keep the amazing Artichoke bread was empty. I asked, the guy checked and brought me out two loaves that had literally just come out of the oven. Awesome snack! Drove south along rte. 1 toward Santa Cruz. Called Hugh and Jimfa to get the scoop on where we might find some waves. They both had suggestions. It turned out it was very flat everywhere, but we still paddled around a bit and tried to catch a wave or two. Drove her home and dropped her off with her gear. Best date I've had in ages. Its a real bummer that this woman really wants to have kids of her own and I have no interest in having more kids. The good news is we agreed we make great friends and that's good enough. If she doesn't meet Mr. Right in the next 4 years it will be too late for her to realistically expect to have kids and then I'll bring the subject up again. Got another date tonight. We were supposed to go to a free concert in my town. Yesterday afternoon she calls and says she got great tickets to tonight's Giants game. I haven't seen a baseball game all summer so I'm psyched to go. Too bad this one doesn't ski/board. She is hot looking and nice though. Surfer/Biker/Skier Chick: Baseball Game Chick: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipuppy Posted August 26, 2006 Report Share Posted August 26, 2006 too bad my mom moved to reno two days ago :p she is totally awesome too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle Posted August 26, 2006 Report Share Posted August 26, 2006 They both seem cool, although the surfer chick seems a bit more athletic. Maybe it's just the options you gave them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carvedog Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 One the hand you've got a cool looking gal who wants to make babies with you and she can smile while teleing. On the other you have a really sharp looking redhead. (one of my serious weaknesses). Such a problem you are having. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aisling Posted August 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 hey i'm a sharp looking redhead, do you have a problem with me? LOL j/k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carvedog Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 hey i'm a sharp looking redhead, do you have a problem with me? LOLj/k The girls of Bomber can do no wrong with me. The only slight problem I have is that all of your photos are too small, too grainy and I havn't seen the stellar smile that co-habitates with the red hair. ;) I am married, so I'm not hitting on you here. Not my style. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncermak Posted August 29, 2006 Report Share Posted August 29, 2006 but that doesn't mean we all wouldn't like to see the picture... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts